About Me

I’m so excited you found me! Whether you’re a woman trying to find herself again, a man navigating changes in your own body and confidence, or a couple trying to close the distance that’s quietly grown between you – you’re in the right place.

 

My name is Vanessa Tarfon and I am a qualified Sex Therapist, with a Masters in HIV, STIs and Sexual Health from the University of Sydney.

 

I’m a mama to two beautiful, energetic boys living with sleep deprivation in a busy household. After having children my self-care time vanished leaving me exhausted, overwhelmed, touched out and quietly losing my identity. I know firsthand what it feels like when your sexuality, your confidence and your sense of self get buried under everything else life demands of you.

 

I brought my inner-self and sexuality back to life and in the process I discovered I wasn’t alone,  not even close. So, after working in the corporate world for several years…I listened and acted to establish Authentic Awareness.

 

The women I work with are mothers deep in the fog of early parenthood who don’t recognise themselves anymore, and women moving through perimenopause and menopause feeling blindsided by changes nobody prepared them for. Shifts in desire, sensation, confidence and connection that nobody warned them were coming.

 

The men I work with are over 35 and quietly dealing with things they’ve never said out loud. Erections that aren’t as reliable as they used to be. Desire that’s shifted. Performance anxiety that’s grown louder over time. A sense that their body is changing, but the shame of feeling less than the man they were means they haven’t told their doctor, their partner, or anyone. Spending years suffering in silence when treatment and real solutions are absolutely possible.

 

Then there are the couples navigating all of the above together, feeling the gap widen, wanting more than what they currently have but not knowing where to start.

 

That’s who I built Authentic Awareness for. All of you.

 

Because the truth is: sexual health doesn’t exist in isolation. When one person is struggling, others in the house feel it. When you get the right support, everything changes.

 

I’m passionate about making sex therapy and education genuinely accessible to everyone. Real answers, no shame, no judgment, and flexible options that work around busy lives and full schedules.

 

You don’t have to keep living in the gap between where you are and where you want to be.

 

Open yourself up to sensuality and connection and welcome confidence, good health and energy into your home.

 

Vanessa x