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Embracing Sex After 50: Navigating Libido, Confidence, and Pleasure During Menopause
- June 1, 2024
- Posted by: Vanessa Tarfon
- Category: Intimacy menopause Relationship Self image Sensual Self Sex
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Embracing Sex After 50: Navigating Libido, Confidence, and Pleasure During Menopause
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Vanessa Tarfon
1 Jun 2024 – 3 min read
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Sexual intimacy, pleasure, and libido don’t take a backseat after 50 or during menopause. It’s a time of change, sure, but it’s also an opportunity for rediscovery and embracing your sexuality with confidence. Let’s dive into how you can navigate the ups and downs of libido, confidence, and pleasure during this stage of life.
Rediscovering Sexual Desire After 50
Finding your desire again after 50 or during menopause can feel like a daunting journey. Hormonal shifts and major life changes can throw things off balance, with 68% of Australian women experiencing low libido during menopause. 38% of menopausal women’s partners say their intimacy and relationship have been affected by the woman’s low libido.
But hey, it’s not all doom and gloom! With a bit of patience, a mindset shift, and some self-compassion, you can reignite that flame of desire.
So, where do we begin this journey of sexual rediscovery?
Positive Mindset Shift
Let’s reframe menopause as a time of sexual liberation! No more worrying about unwanted pregnancies or timing around your menstrual cycle. It’s your time to explore and show the world your authentic self, living life on your terms. And for partners out there, emotionally supporting your loved one through these changes will work wonders for your sexual relationship.
Cultivating Confidence
Confidence is key when it comes to embracing sex and intimacy after 50 or during menopause.
First, let’s engage in daily positive sexual self-talk. This involves promoting a mindset to embrace your sexuality as a natural and beautiful aspect of who you are, regardless of age or circumstance. Performed naked in front of the mirror, remind yourself daily of your inherent worthiness of pleasure and intimacy.
Next, write a sexual statement. A brief declaration of who you are as a sexual being, what you deserve, and what you’re willing to give and receive. Read it out loud to yourself at least three times a day. Trust me, it works wonders for reinforcing your confidence and self-worth.
Reconnecting Through Self-Pleasure
Self-pleasure is fundamental to rediscovering sex and intimacy after 50 or during menopause. Take time to reconnect with your body, exploring what feels good and how it responds to different sensations. This isn’t just about physical pleasure. It’s about reclaiming ownership of your body and desires and empowering you to communicate your needs and preferences with confidence to a partner.
Navigating Intimate Relationships
Dating and finding intimate partners after 50 or during menopause can be intimidating, but confidence and assertiveness are attractive qualities at any age. Most partners appreciate someone who can articulate their needs because they want to cherish you sexually. By speaking up about your desires and boundaries in the bedroom, you can foster open communication and prioritise your pleasure.
Embracing Sex Toys
Sex toys aren’t just for the younger crowd. They can be valuable tools for enhancing pleasure and intimacy after 50 or during menopause, especially if you’re navigating changes in libido or experiencing physical limitations. From vibrators to massage oils, there’s a wide range of options tailored to your needs and preferences. Don’t be afraid to explore and experiment until you find what works best for you.
Embracing intimacy after 50 or during menopause is a journey. One that requires patience, self-compassion, and a willingness to embrace change. By shifting your mindset, cultivating confidence and reconnecting with yourself you can reignite the flame of your sexuality and embrace a fulfilling and pleasurable life, regardless of age. So, remember, the best is yet to come. Embrace the journey!
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Vanessa Tarfon
Sex Therapist, owner of Authentic Awareness
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