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Unleash Your Orgasmic Partner Potential: Elevate your Intimacy Game!

Vanessa Tarfon

1 May 2024 – 4 min read

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Are you tired of feeling like you’re missing out on the ultimate pleasure ride with your partner? Do you long for those toe-curling, earth-shattering orgasms during lovemaking, not just when you’re flying solo? If you’re nodding along, congratulations, you’ve stumbled upon the holy grail of partnered pleasure. Get ready to shake off the shackles of fake orgasms and dive headfirst into a world of authentic ecstasy!

Why Orgasms Play Hide and Seek

A whopping 58% of women admit at least sometimes faking orgasms.

Men think it’s about 21% so ladies, you all deserve an Oscar (or not)!


Faking orgasms is worse than you think. It’s not just deceiving your partner and yourself in the moment. Relationship satisfaction for men and women is positively associated with female orgasm frequency and intensity so it’s time to get real if you want your relationship to go from drab to fab!


More than 95% of men and women orgasm during masturbation, but women struggle to translate this to their partner experiences. Why? Because only 5% of women stimulate their vagina alone during masturbation. The majority of women orgasm through clitoral stimulation and the way they stimulate their clitoris during self-pleasure is different to during penetrative intercourse.

What's Holding You Back?

Reaching orgasm with your partner can feel like a distant dream. Here’s what might be holding your orgasm back from exploding:


Foreplay Frenzy: Foreplay isn’t whetting your appetite for pleasure and you’re rushing through the most important part of intimacy. You’re trying to reach your target of penetrative intercourse instead of savouring the anticipation and understanding when foreplay ends and the main event starts. Usually, it’s either because you don’t have time or aren’t receiving the stimulation you need.


Penis Reliance: You are determined to have penetrative intercourse every time. Variety is the spice of life, especially when it comes to reaching that peak of pleasure. Don’t settle for one-trick pony tactics and expect your partner’s penis to punch your pleasure.


Positional Perfection: Not all positions are created equal and as much as sometimes you want to be a sheep, you need to become the pleasure shepherd. Experimentation is key to finding that sweet spot where pleasure reigns supreme.


Orgasm pressure cooker: You’ve had bad experiences in trying to reach your peak so now you are subconsciously pushing yourself to get over that mountain. Truth: the more you aim for orgasm and think “I think I can, I think I can” the more that train is going to run out of steam to reach the top.


But guess what? It’s time to rewrite that narrative and reclaim your orgasmic truth.

Your Gateway to Orgasmic Bliss: The Clitoris

Get ready to meet your new best friend: the clitoris. This powerhouse of pleasure holds the key to unlocking orgasmic paradise. By combining clitoral stimulation with penetration, you’re setting the stage for a symphony of sensations that will leave you breathless.


Women orgasm 51-60% of the time during assisted intercourse versus only 21-30% of the time during penetration only. 

“Ladies, you have the same capacity to orgasm as men it’s just a matter of taking what you want!”

Starting Your Orgasm Odyssey

Feeling overwhelmed? Fear not. Here’s your roadmap to reaching new heights of pleasure:


Solo Sensations:

Take time to explore your body and discover what sets your senses on fire. Masturbation isn’t just self-love; it’s a voyage of self-discovery and it exists inside and outside of relationships.


Foreplay Fiesta:

Slow down, savour the moment, and let your partner’s touch ignite your senses. Remember, it’s not just about the destination; it’s about the journey. Sex is a full-body activity and foreplay starts before you even touch each other.


Honesty Hour:

Drop the pretence and communicate openly with your partner. Women’s sexual responses are internal so speak up and guide your man by sharing your desires and needs to unlock a world of mutual pleasure.


Mix it Up:

Variety is the spice of life, especially when it comes to orgasms. Experiment with different techniques and sensations to discover what sends you over the edge. Women need a combination of sexual practices to reach their peak so think about kissing, manual and oral stimulation even during penetration. Secret: you don’t need to orgasm with your partner’s penis inside you every time!

Orgasm with your partner isn’t a far-off dream; it’s within your reach. By embracing open communication and exploring new avenues of pleasure, you’ll embark on a journey of intimacy and satisfaction that will leave you breathless for more. So, what are you waiting for, start today or contact me for more details!

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Vanessa Tarfon

Sex Therapist, owner of Authentic Awareness

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